Wife to Wife
Written for the wife.
Almost everything written about this lifestyle is written to the man, about the man. I know, because when my husband asked me I went looking and there was nothing for me.
Roughly a third of women have fantasized about this. One in three. Nobody ever quotes that one.
These are the three roads I see women on, and I have been on all of them.
He asked. You are deciding.
My Husband Asked Me to Be a Hotwife. Here Is What I Was Actually Afraid Of.
All I ever wanted my whole life was to be a good wife and a good mother, and I thought this would cost me that. One of the things I was afraid of I never said out loud to anyone. This is the real list.
You want it first and cannot say it.
I Want This. How Do I Tell Him? For the Wife Who Wants It First.
One in three women have fantasized about this and nobody ever quotes that number. If you are the one who wants it first, here is why it is harder to say, what his quiet actually is, and why it will not always be this way.
You liked it more than you expected.
I Liked It More Than I Expected. Nobody Warns You About That.
Everybody warns a wife she might hate it. Nobody warns her she might love it, or that the appetite grows. This is the honest version from ten years in, including the conversation we are still having.
Why this is separate
A wife is raised into one sentence and a husband into another. Hers is that a good wife does not want this. His is that a real man does not share. Neither of them picked it up on purpose.
The lifestyle is not the hard part. Those sentences are.
Everything here comes from my own marriage. What I will and will not put on this site is on the standards page, and the long version is in my book.
About the author
Happy Hotwife
I have been with my husband since 1994 and married to him since 1999. We have lived the Hotwife lifestyle on purpose since 2016, which means everything I write here is something we have actually done, not something I read about. I wrote Becoming Happy Hotwife, a 360 page memoir about how we got from there to here, and I write songs about the same life.
My husband writes this with me. If you want to know what I will and will not put on this site, it is all in how I write this site.