The Survey Project
The Real Hotwife Survey.
The internet is full of opinions about this lifestyle. Almost none of them come with data. We are fixing that.
Two anonymous surveys, one for couples living it and one for everyone still dreaming about it. Results publish free for the whole community, creators included.
Living it
For couples with real experience
How it started, how it really works, fantasy vs reality from both sides of the marriage, and the questions nobody has ever collected real answers to.
Take the couples’ surveyAbout 7 minutes · anonymous · every intimate question is skippable
Dreaming it
For everyone who carries the fantasy
What makes it hot, which flavor pulls hardest, what is standing between you and trying it, and what you wish existed in this space.
Take the fantasy surveyAbout 4 minutes · anonymous · no judgment
The Black Cuckold Survey
For the men this lifestyle never gave a voice
The first survey ever built for Black men drawn to the Cuckold side. The fantasy, the stigma, the race play truth, and what a safe place would need. Nobody has ever counted you. I am counting you.
Take the Black Cuckold surveyAbout 5 minutes · anonymous · every question is skippable
Why run this survey?
Because when we went looking for the truth about this lifestyle years ago, all we found was porn and guesswork. The only research that exists studies fantasies. Nobody ever asked the couples actually living it. These two surveys give the community its own numbers, from real people, published free.
Who sees my answers?
Nobody, individually. Answers are collected anonymously and only ever published as combined statistics. There is no email field, no name field, and no way for us to know who said what.
When do the results come out?
When enough couples have responded for the numbers to mean something. Results will publish on this page, free, and stay here permanently. Until then, every number I already cite anywhere on this site is collected and sourced on my facts page, so you can check me.
Not sure you belong in this survey?
You probably do. If the words are what is stopping you, the glossary defines all of them, and what cuckolding actually is explains the dynamic the second survey asks about. If you are curious rather than living it, the fantasy survey is the one for you, and the honest guide is where I would start. The Black Cuckold Survey has its own companion page, the eight questions I get asked most.
Who is asking?
Me. My husband and I have been together since 1994, married since 1999, and we have lived this life on purpose since 2016. I wrote it all down in Becoming Happy Hotwife, and the true stories from our own marriage are here too. More about us is on my about page, and if you would rather ask a person than fill in a form, ask me anything.
Want the results first?
Leave an email and the findings land in your inbox the day they publish. This is completely separate from the surveys: your email is never connected to any answers, and the surveys stay fully anonymous either way.