How I Write This Site

Everything on this site comes from one marriage. Ours.

My husband and I have been together since 1994 and married since 1999. We have lived the Hotwife lifestyle on purpose since 2016. I wrote a 360 page book about how we got here. I write the posts on this site, and he writes them with me.

That is the whole source. There is no research team and there is no survey. There is one couple who actually lives this and decided to say so out loud.

Why I started writing it down

When we went looking for information, we found fantasy. Stories written by people who had never done it, for people who never would. The husbands were weak. The wives were cruel. Nobody in them was in love.

That is not our marriage, and it is not the marriages of the couples we know. So I started writing the version I wish we had found.

What I will not do

I do not invent statistics. If I cannot tell you who counted and when, I do not put a number on the page. Where I cite real research, I link to it and name the source.

I do not invent couples. Every story here happened to us, or it is clearly marked as a question, a fantasy, or a what if.

I do not pretend to experience I do not have. When something sits outside what we have actually lived, I say so instead of guessing in an authoritative voice.

I do not write about people who did not agree to it. The men in our life have names I do not use. Our family stays out of this.

What is real and what is made

My face is real. My marriage is real. My husband is real, and the stories are ours.

Some of the artwork and imagery on this site is made with AI. Where that is true, it is labeled. I do not pass off a generated image as a moment that happened, and I never will.

When I get it wrong

I will get things wrong. When I do, I fix the page and say what changed rather than quietly editing it. I would rather be corrected than be trusted for the wrong reason.

If you find something here that is wrong, tell me.

How I make money

I am not neutral about my own work and I am not going to pretend otherwise.

I earn royalties when you buy my book. I earn from the guides, the merch, the music, and the membership. Those are mine, I made them, and I want you to have them.

Nothing on this site is a paid placement. Nobody has ever paid me to recommend anything, and no brand has ever had a say in what I write. If that ever changes, this page changes with it and the disclosure goes on the post itself.

Who writes this

Happy Hotwife and her Uncommon husband. Written from Southwest Florida, where we live, about a marriage we are still in.