Size Matters: Truth or Part of the Game?

That the song is the game and the book is the truth and honestly, it's a little bit of both. Hey, I'm Happy Hotwife and thank you for visiting my podcast. Just a little background about my husband and I. We've been together since 1994 and married since 1999. We're a Hotwife couple and we were happy long before we were Uncommon. This is where we tell you how it really works. The truth, not the porn version. This week the question I get asked more than any other does size matter?

You guys picked Happy Size Queen as the new song so we figured it's time to talk about what's true in that song and what's the game? So the song is our real story just turned up all the way. The beginning is true. I said no for 10 years. I wanted to be a good faithful wife. To me that meant only to him. He kept bringing it up and gently whispering it bigger toys fantasies and one day I finally said yes. "Your little dick's too small never filled me right comes too quick leaves me craving all night it's all your fault, love, you created this beast turned your sweet wife into Happy Size Queen." So yeah, so what do you think about those lyrics? I mean, it's like. You know, I mean I could it's obvious when you found what works for you. It's like.

Yeah, I mean it's pretty apparent. Well, I. Do have to say that the song does leave out a little bit of the truth because you were actually bigger than average. The thing is though is that. That's why it makes me want to lock you up anyways because. It doesn't I mean your size doesn't matter because. I found what really made my body go crazy and. It is bigger than average. And I have discovered that. Ever since we started the lifestyle and. I feel like anything that is smaller. Just should automatically be locked up because it's no use. I. Do have to say something about the ocean line though. That I've heard several times and it is definitely a cute line.

It's not the size of the ship. It's the motion of the ocean. Okay. Well, I think that basically. Protects people's feelings when a man sends that line to me, I automatically know that he's not the one. But I want to be fair here and this isn't a test anybody passes or fails it's about my body and what I learned to respond to. For me filling me and reaching me are two different feelings when both happen at the same time. That's it for me. Okay. So if you're a woman listening and. That's never happened for you. You're not broken. It doesn't automatically mean you need someone bigger either your body is just yours and you get to find out what works for you. So did you know that about me before? Babe and be honest.

Well, I mean, I know that. You are difficult one to crack. Before hey, I still am. Yeah, you are you are but when you do find. The right one it's pretty obvious. So there's truth to that. I mean. Yeah, like we say like, you know, you didn't know what you didn't know. And now you do know so. That's I get it. It's what you look for. But I gotta say I mean it's not like it's all bad because I.

Like watching you you're I. Mean who I mean, I don't think a lot of men. Can imagine watching their wives have sex. I like they like to watch other couples have sex or poor. Service like the surveys say 58% of men will imagine their partner with somebody else. But how many of them actually get to see their partner with somebody else? That's where fantasy and reality split and it's totally different. But when I did see it the first time like you were asking yes, and it happened. Yeah, that's the real it's like. Everything mixed up. Yeah, I'm totally jealous and I'm totally.

Like what the f*** am I doing? Is this real am I really letting this guy f*** my wife? It's like. But I'm like, holy sh*t. This is so hot like you look so good, babe. I. Could watch you all day, but. Yeah, I don't care that it's some other guy f***ing you but that's part of the game we play. How else can I watch you? F*** if it's not with somebody else. Exactly yeah, it sounds crazy, but we're not the only ones listen anybody listen to this. It's okay to think that's so. Does it really sting when I tease you?

Yes there's some things that definitely stinging a lot of things sting, like even this last song that we're putting out the. But in the Happy Size Queen that ones that was rough like. You go after it and. Go hard on it. Um, so yeah, though it does thing. I was hesitant to put that one out put it in the challenge for the Inner Circle the boat on. But it does sound good. I mean, it's a good song so, I mean it's part of the game. It's just our language. It's our I. Mean, don't take it too serious. We're just having fun. And do you ever blame me? No, I don't blame you at all. Um, I totally.

Know like what are you to blame for? I brought I hope I mean I've brought it to you. And you did resist I mean you like you resist the reality but you love like you got into the fantasy. We always talked about it. I mean even got to where you like it so the talk and you resisted the reality probably thinking more because you're not you think a lot like I don't know we both overthink but. You were probably thinking more. With your head than I was whenever you were thinking about making it a reality. Yeah, and then once the reality happened you realized your head was wrong and then I realized I probably should have thought with my head more.

You know what I mean well, it was that it was hard. It was unreal, surreal it was surreal and there's been a lot of growing since then and. I mean, it's just the game. It's not easy, but it's anything great easy or fun easy, I don't know. So, what else do you see that nobody else sees about me? Yeah, what do I see about you? I see everything. That's all I want. I mean. I see everything I see behind the scenes. I see how hard you work. What a good mom you are. I see everything you're the whole thing for me like. You're my porn star my I mean you take such good care of me. I see it all. I mean nobody sees it all but. I think. I'm old-fashioned well we both are kind of but with modified well, actually if you want to think about it.

We are both old-fashioned. We may not have old-fashioned rules, but the mindset like the pioneer minds. That and yes and the independence and make your own rules like that's American like. That's right create your own marriage by your own rules and. Society can go do their own thing. Exactly a couple of real life things because people ask. I I want to know exactly their size before we meet up it's very practical and I think it saves everybody time. And there are a lot of men that like to exaggerate and nobody owes me that either we both get to decide whether we're comfortable and whether we're a match. Bigger isn't automatically better. It has to work for your body what it works for you. And I have to say it's it's the curve it gets me.

When someone sends me one with the curve and it's the right size. I melt okay, I know and when someone I when you tell me someone sent you that I already know I'm like. Yeah butterfly start going in your belly. Yeah, that's when it gets real. I mean, but that's what makes the game. I mean that's the excitement in that. We're afraid also, you know like the book says we do have seasons. And some seasons are wild and some we step back and some you know, we. Completely shut down for a little bit because life gets. Busy and. I mean like you know COVID wasn't pretty so. But we keep choosing it. For some reason it's just it's it's a. I love it. I like it. Well, I mean it's I mean you can tell there's a draw for people to it for some reason I'm not going to try to.

Go into the psychology of it. But I mean also like how we like to check in with each other. You know after the night. You know that we have played. We always like to reconnect after. Okay, so these are questions. That people have asked me on Ask Happy my husband is average should he worry? No and just do not measure your marriage. So what I learned about my body is it was never about him being. Less if anything it made me feel closer to him and not further away. So isn't Size Queen just a porn thing. No porn exaggerates it like. Everything else it's entertainment and it doesn't tell you what every woman wants. For me, it's a real physical preference and. Plenty of men like I said exaggerate. So, you know, that's why it's very important to be up front.

So the thing is too is times you know the men have the right size. But yet they just like to be like a jackhammer. And that's not that's that that's not what I like. So how do you ask a man his size without being rude? Well, like I said, um. We make sure we discuss it early in messages and politely. I ask without putting anyone down. He can decide if he's comfortable enough answering. So. If not then I you know, if he doesn't feel comfortable then that's fine we can either walk away from the conversation or. You know if I feel like he's got a personality I keep talking and then I wait for that picture. So I definitely do not play. Until I've seen a picture so the more that they want to string in the long the more they have to wait.

Oh, this one's for you how do you handle the small penis teasing that I do? Oh. Oh depends on how much I think about it if I just play the game about it, I mean it's fun hot whatever. But sometimes it can get in your head, you know, it's like. It does get in your head and we can get in deeper than that in the Inner Circle, but I'm not going to say it here but um. Overall it's uncomfortable for sure. And I don't like it in public which is why it's crazy that we're doing all this. What do you call it? I don't know it's different. I don't know. Thank God. We're not is this that thing where you you think with the head in your pants and not on your neck? Probably because I'm sitting here in my own room and nobody's around us, but.

Not actually seeing or hearing or knowing how many people are listening. But see that's the thing that I like. About teasing you is because I like to see you squirm it's sometimes more than a game. Sometimes more than a game yeah. I know you're getting to like it more than you used to for sure. I can tell. This month it's been rough. I know you poor thing. It'll be okay so okay, so here's another question. Um, I've never finished from sex alone. Is something wrong with me? That alone doesn't mean something is wrong. With you, many women need clitoral stimulation rather than penetration alone. I'm one. Um, I definitely have to have clitoral stimulation also if I don't have the right size but try toys if you want to talk to your husband and be patient with yourself.

We've used toys for years before we ever tried the real thing. And husband should not take it personal. I know I've talked to. Other women that their husbands say that. They don't like them using toys because it's it's. It's not them so it's not them well, I can get that side too and totally understand it's like because. But I mean since we've been doing this I come to a different realization that. I mean. I feel like you I can't speak for other women, but I'm sure you're not dissimilar from a lot of women.

That I think women need more than average to actually. Have an orgasm just with penetration. I just feel like like a lot of the stats we've seen. Women don't have an orgasm from penetration alone. Probably correlates with. Who they're who's penetrating her in my opinion. Because like I've seen my wife with. Quite a few men and I can tell. A difference so I mean, I think there's correlation. Everybody else maybe they haven't tried like that. We always say you don't know what you don't know. Maybe they don't know what they don't know. That's right. Happy didn't know what you didn't know. I didn't know what I didn't know until. Fantasy became reality and it's different so tell me what's your favorite part about being a Hotwife?

My favorite part. Do I really need to say that? Let's hear all the other tell the other wives out there that are hesitant don't. Probably that's real. I don't have one favorite part. I have a lot of parts that I like. I think one of them the big one is confidence that it has brought. The freedom I believe it I've seen the confidence in me. So yeah. Yeah, that's what I like about it, too the freedom to flirt. I like to flirt and I don't feel guilty for it. Just meeting somebody is very stressful so. I'm always happy to get that over with. Yeah, but the chit chat and stuff. I feel like it keeps me young. Feeling young. I definitely like you know, I I do go to the gym. I do that for my husband for you, sweetie and I do it for other men.

Oh oh, you're so sweet. I thought you were asleep there for a second. Did that on purpose? I guess it's that thing I like to do. There's the example so what is your one bad experience? Do you remember? you know what I'm talking about one bad experience we met up with someone. And the it just didn't come off right when we were sitting there at the table with them and. He just started being really cocky and being complete. Different person than who I was chatting with. And so is he the same what I'm thinking of when we met him at the he was drunk pretty much. Yes. Yes yeah, don't show up drunk. That's dumb. I mean he got he just started talking too much. Was rude and didn't get the situation. So. That was another yeah yeah, I.

I mean, that's the only one I can I the only bad experience. I think we've had. Yeah, that's it thank goodness yeah, I mean I get it shoot I'd be nervous. I mean. Especially if you never met a couple or I mean, it's not normal. Um. I mean we're not trying to be normal, but it's not normal for a lot of people so they get stressed and then I used to getting out of comfort zone but it it is it is different to see though that some of the men that um, I've met up with. They don't drink they don't drink. They don't do anything. It's just. They do that's awesome sober. So, I mean I have to say I have to have a drink to ease my nerve. Then filling up drunk and then you know. I feel like you did have another I don't know you've had some that were just nervous. Maybe they drank too much of nervous and.

Can't perform yeah, you didn't have the most fun with but yeah. Yeah, it happens there has been ones that can't perform. And yeah, I do take that to heart a little bit. But yeah, but it's not you. Probably just they're nervous. What's the one rule you'll never break that we have. One rule that never break. Well, see that's hard because he changed the rules a lot. So. It just depends on the moment, but we don't we don't change the big rules. Well like cool what's the one rule like I mean it you I mean if it's a if it's the one rule it's something it's not a little rule. They'll be that's flexible that goes and sees us. I will not like you. You do not like it up to but.

That's not funny that's not even that's not even a given I'm not doing that. No, like that's not even a rule that's just. Not happening what's a rule? I'm just teasing you. See I'm making you squirm. I will not cheat on you. I will not do anything dishonest that is behind your back. Whatever I do you will know about it. Or it's something that we have discussed. Yeah. I think that's pretty much the. One rule we have is. We're if anything happens we talk about it honestly open. You have to be honest. So that I think is probably. I mean you have to have the relationship that's open enough to be able to.

Say something that's uncomfortable. And honest but possibly get hurt your partner. And still say it and still say it with love, you know, not like you're trying to hurt your partner but trying to. Find a solution you're trying to find a way to. Make it work together okay, let's keep going so what do you say to a wife who's embarrassed? She wants more. Did you feel at a point where you were embarrassed do you admit you wanted more? Well, I think you're gonna be you want to be a good wife and a mom, but yeah. Both so what do you say? I wouldn't say the word is being embarrassed. I don't think I've felt embarrassed to. Want more you haven't made me feel that way like you haven't made me feel like it's a bad thing. So.

I guess I don't feel embarrassed. Just so, you know everyone I do chase a lot of squirrels and. Sometimes he has to. Bring me back in here's another question that came in for you. Since we're on the. Happy Size Queen night tonight. What's more important length or girth? Or how about you just tell us like or tell us either one what's your. Perfect. Well, I mean you definitely have to have girth I do like length like I said, it's it's that. Curve but you do have to have girth. But I mean there has been times that you know, sometimes I'll get pictures. Of the third leg and I'm like, oh my goodness that is a big negative. No. Being a Size Queen is there such thing as too big for you? Yes. Absolutely. Do you think your maximum size would be?

I think right now. I mean right now I would say a nine. Eight nine eight nine. Yeah. Definitely not a skinny one. Here's another question. Do you tell your husband the size before you meet a guy. Do I what? Somebody asked happy. Do you tell your husband the size before you meet a guy? So she's asking if you tell me how big he is before we meet. Oh. I mean you automatically know I wouldn't meet anybody that is smaller than you so. I mean you I mean you don't I don't give you the specifics or the details. I just say yeah, he's bigger.

You know. I wasn't expecting that answer that's good oh, what were you expecting? I don't know, but that was I mean. Pretty hot the way you said it. I mean seriously, I wouldn't want you why would you play with anybody smaller? Doesn't make sense? Yeah, exactly here's one like here's a pretty good question for just in general. If a couple is listening and scared, what's the first step? Well, I think the couple. You know the man and the woman are both going to be nervous.

And scared for two different reasons. I agree so fake it till you make it. Yeah yeah, I mean and for her all she had to do was fake walking through the door the first time. And then. I mean like we talk about in the book the switch. That's when I saw it. I mean, there's something there's nothing like seeing that in your wife. I guess I don't know something. Well, I guess that goes to this other question. There is what's the best I guess it was for me what's the best part of your role?

For me as the husband as I was saying in the last question, it's like watching her. In the moment pretty much since her shirt comes off. It's like a switch comes off with it. And she owns the room she owns everything it's like. He absorbs the pleasure and just. Radiates it so it's like that confidence. Yeah, I love it. And I mean I don't love that that's another man being there but. It is what it is. I was gonna see it. Um.

I don't know. I like it. I like watching that that's well, that's the best part of my role. Because in the end, you know I'm going home with you. Oh, that's the other thing like. Best part of the role is that. I'm her husband and she takes very good care of me. Okay. I'm not I have no complaint. We're happy. Happy that's why she's Happy Hotwife thank you for listening to the Happy Hotwife podcast if this is your first time here I'm happy. And everything we do comes from our real marriage. I wrote our story in a book Becoming Happy Hotwife: An Uncommon Love Story it's on Amazon and paperback. Kindle and hardcover. I also write songs about our life. Part truth part fantasy. You can find Uncommon Love Songs on Spotify apple. Music and everywhere you stream music.

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